The Ravages of "Time"
My friend Rachel has just posted a blog post entitled I’m Done Waiting on You and in it I’m referenced as “dear friend and coworker.” She invited me to write my own response to
our discussion she mentions. It’s
interesting to listen to someone talk about how they see their past chronologically,
because you’ve only known them for a short part of that time, and what they
remember is often just stories for you.
I came into Rachel’s story about 2 years ago and these discussions are a
(somewhat) regular occurrence for us. To
talk about life and particularly the feelings we have towards God and/or others
in relation to a moment in life.
A moment in life, this really is what life is all
about. It’s not about finding the path
to some goal, but about finding ways to be in the moment. This is what I remember most about our
discussion that day: I kept referencing a selfie Rachel had taken of herself a
couple of days earlier. It was of her on
the walking loop by her apartment after getting caught in a quick rain
storm. It was everything that one would
want in a picture. Her smile told of
pure peace and joy, and she was glowing all over. It was a moment in time in between searching
for what is not yet and reflecting on what has been. It is these moments where time really exists.
Time, Karios time, the proper and opportune time for
something to happen, is something that’s hard for us to understand. We mark life by moves, by relationships, by
holidays, by vacations, and we treat each of these as if they are on a path to
somewhere. Yet, they are not because we willed them into existence, but because
we have allowed the moment to exist as it is and we have joined in it. This changes not only how we see time and
events, but our understanding of God as well.
God in chronological time is always setting up the next
thing. If I do this, then God can do that,
and once God does that, then I can do this.
This is a problem because what happens when you’ve done the “right”
things and what you expect to occur isn’t happening? You have no choice but to blame God, or worse
yet, blame yourself. We have built a
whole religious complex out of this kind of shame, telling people that they
just need to do more, do it better, do it right. A God who works in chronological time is a
God who is in control, and if we feel out of control, it’s our own fault. This is a problem because God works in Karios
time and we see it from the very beginning.
The creation account in Genesis may be poetic, but it also
is a theological statement on the meaning of time. God’s actions are because of a response to
what God sees. The acts are not set up
with a final design in mind, but to do what is needed as it appears. This is a God who exists in the moment. God who is ready for us to be angry when the
chronological plan doesn’t come together.
God who reminds us to be who we are, to be in that moment, to not feel
shame but to seek fullness of self.
That walk with Rachel was a moment, a moment when various
other moments informed my words. A
moment when we were able to be vulnerable with each other and with God. The anger she felt was honest, and I believe
fully that God was as angry as we were.
Because there were moments she felt were missing, ones that were more
than desires but wholly pieces of herself which were missing.
This is the difficulty of living a life with a narrative that
goes chronologically, it’s a life where shame controls and hurts fester all the
while God is wanting us to feel whole in body, spirit, mind, soul, and
relationships. Our best relationships
aren’t always the dating kind, but when you feel yourself falling behind in
life, we quickly wonder what is wrong with us, why we don’t get what we are
searching for, and we are left with no choice but to blame self or blame God.
Yet, faith pushes us to see the world differently. Not a life where we are waiting, or working
towards something, but a life where we can be fully ourselves, even when a
piece feels missing. This life requires
us to live constantly in Karios time, to see each opportunity and each moment
as special, not because of where it may lead but because of where we are. This is the story of two walks Rachel took
with me, one to talk about how done she is with waiting, and one where she found
herself whole in a moment even though things still weren’t as desired or
expected. Wherever and whenever you are
Mr Rev Rachy, she’s right, you’re missing out. May your moment come when it is
time.
It really isn’t that simple, but it is.
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